Most people claim that you can’t find companionship or love online, and the rest of them claim that you might be able to, but they never had. Well, the truth is, you can find companionship, love, and lasting relationships on the ‘net. And it might not be as hard as you think.
But where to find this elusive thing, and how to master online dating so that you too can have your pick of the lucky ladies and handsome men on the net?
Where to Look
Don’t expect to sit down in front of your computer, bring up your browser, and instantly have several dates. But you don’t have to spend hours upon hours trying to find one, either.
Dating sites are the most popular way to find companionship. Match.com, e-Harmony.com… there are numerous online dating sites out there. If you’re choosing one, make sure to pick one that has fees you can afford, and has been around since 2002 or earlier.
Many people also try chat rooms to find someone to spend time talking, musing, and laughing with. These chat rooms can be found anywhere online! If you’re an AOL user, they offer a hole plethora of chat rooms for all sorts of interests – political, automobile, and even those looking for a little attention of the opposite sex.
You can also find chat rooms on MySpace, and other popular websites online – or you can use Google’s search engine and look for ‘relationship chat rooms’, or simply ‘chat rooms’.
Ways to Build a Good Profile
With any internet dating site, if you don’t have a good, solid profile, you won’t have much luck. But creating a profile can be harder than some might think, and creating one that others will like… that takes some serious thought.
The first step is to craft a profile – go ahead and make one now. Write about what you think is important, and we’ll go from there. Okay, do you have one down? Look over it… have you forgotten to list your favorite interests? Or that band you love? How about your job, or what you do for fun on a Saturday night.
Put as much detail as you can muster in your profile, and make sure that the person reading it is able to get a sense of who you really are. This is all they have to go by, after all!
So, you have a profile on a good site, and you’re interested in someone. How can you make good conversation to keep them interested in you, too?
Talk about their interests, and make sure to subtly compliment them – over the top compliments make you seem cheesy, and your compliments seem less than honest. Quiet, easy compliments that make a person feel good – concentrate on those!
Watch the news, and talk about what’s going on in the world. It makes you sound like you know what’s happening, and you’ll learn their views on things as well.
Discuss your interests, and listen to what inspires them. Talk about the future as well as the past, and see if their goals for five, ten, even fifteen years down the road match with yours.
The online dating world is very real, and you can meet people that you would never encounter anywhere else. Real love can be found there, so give it a try!