EHarmony Drama Queen

A year or so ago, a co-worker signed me up for eHarmony. He was tired of consoling me on a recent breakup and wanted to help me rebound. Since I’m not one to ever complain or outwardly display much emotion, he saw this as a problem that needed to be dealt with and this was his way.

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Within a month I had a date with a local college student who I met on eHarmony. We started talking online over Valentine’s Day weekend and decided to meet for dinner sometime around the first of March. This looked to be just what the doctor ordered – a beautiful local girl who likes baseball and math and generally just seemed very compatible with me.

We were going to meet at Chili’s and I told her I would wait outside the restaurant for her. So I arrived 15 minutes early and sat down on a bench near the front door and read some news on my iPhone (It was a weeknight so no one else was waiting). 25 minutes later I called her to see where she is. She was inside the restaurant crying because I didn’t stop her on the way in.
Apparently she walked right by, knew I was the one she was looking for, sat down at a table and started crying. Really? I should have given up on her right then. I mean, if she’s causing so much drama over basically nothing, what’s going to happen later?

But, she’s gorgeous and I wanted to give her another chance. Next week we decide to meet at the first baseball game of the season for the local college. She was all excited about it an was texting me all day and then suddenly she had to babysit longer than usual so she wouldn’t be able to come until an hour late. No big deal, I’ll be fine at the ball game by myself. I’ve done it a lot before. An hour and a half later, I call and she says she has to go eat dinner and I ask if I can join her. She says no because she’s just in a crappy mood.

Again, I should have given up because of the flakiness and drama, but no. The next week I offered to cook her dinner because I’m a pretty good cook. So I asked what she wants. Chicken strawberry pie. Not chicken with strawberry pie for dessert, but chicken and strawberry together in a pie. I had never heard of it and my friend who graduated from the Culinary Institute of America hadn’t heard of it. Anyway, I tried to make it and it turned out great and we had a good time. But a little later she pitched another fit about something useless and left with the left over pie. I never saw her again. Since then I have met some more sane people on eHarmony and I can see that it is a good way to meet people.

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The Basics of Online Dating

Most people claim that you can’t find companionship or love online, and the rest of them claim that you might be able to, but they never had. Well, the truth is, you can find companionship, love, and lasting relationships on the ‘net. And it might not be as hard as you think.

But where to find this elusive thing, and how to master online dating so that you too can have your pick of the lucky ladies and handsome men on the net?

Basics of Online Dating

Where to Look

Don’t expect to sit down in front of your computer, bring up your browser, and instantly have several dates. But you don’t have to spend hours upon hours trying to find one, either.

Dating sites are the most popular way to find companionship. Match.com, e-Harmony.com… there are numerous online dating sites out there. If you’re choosing one, make sure to pick one that has fees you can afford, and has been around since 2002 or earlier.

Many people also try chat rooms to find someone to spend time talking, musing, and laughing with. These chat rooms can be found anywhere online! If you’re an AOL user, they offer a hole plethora of chat rooms for all sorts of interests – political, automobile, and even those looking for a little attention of the opposite sex.

You can also find chat rooms on MySpace, and other popular websites online – or you can use Google’s search engine and look for ‘relationship chat rooms’, or simply ‘chat rooms’.

Ways to Build a Good Profile

With any internet dating site, if you don’t have a good, solid profile, you won’t have much luck. But creating a profile can be harder than some might think, and creating one that others will like… that takes some serious thought.

The first step is to craft a profile – go ahead and make one now. Write about what you think is important, and we’ll go from there. Okay, do you have one down? Look over it… have you forgotten to list your favorite interests? Or that band you love? How about your job, or what you do for fun on a Saturday night.

Put as much detail as you can muster in your profile, and make sure that the person reading it is able to get a sense of who you really are. This is all they have to go by, after all!

Making Conversation

So, you have a profile on a good site, and you’re interested in someone. How can you make good conversation to keep them interested in you, too?

Talk about their interests, and make sure to subtly compliment them – over the top compliments make you seem cheesy, and your compliments seem less than honest. Quiet, easy compliments that make a person feel good – concentrate on those!

Watch the news, and talk about what’s going on in the world. It makes you sound like you know what’s happening, and you’ll learn their views on things as well.

Discuss your interests, and listen to what inspires them. Talk about the future as well as the past, and see if their goals for five, ten, even fifteen years down the road match with yours.

The online dating world is very real, and you can meet people that you would never encounter anywhere else. Real love can be found there, so give it a try!

Finding the Right Online Dating Website

There are thousands of popular online dating sites to sift through on the Internet. The massive popularity of such Web sites proves how open-minded people have become about matchmaking services in the 21st century.

There are thousands of popular online dating sites to sift through on the Internet. The massive popularity of such Web sites proves how open-minded people have become about matchmaking services in the 21st century. Meeting people on the Web has become commonplace for the younger generation. However, most who are seeking out dating sites hardly have the time to meet people, let alone explore every online social portal. There are many techniques one should employ when choosing which is the right site to use. The first thing a new user should do is set a budget for him/herself. This budget may equal zero, which is fine.
There are plenty of free dating sites available and many people have used them with great success. However, with paid dating sites, a person will be treated to a more advanced matchmaking process. Not only may this include a scientific approach to matching like personalities, many paid dating sites will conduct criminal background checks on its users. Another service may be a check on whether or not a user is secretly married. Although there are thousands of dating sites to choose from, only a handful has become familiar to the public as a reputable service. Massive television campaigns, banner ads and even word of mouth should let a person know if they are dealing with a legitimate company. This isn’t to say that the many dating sites without national attention aren’t any good, but some may feel more comfortable going with a safe bet.

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Also, there will be more options on the most popular dating sites. If one chooses to use a lesser known dating service, it may be good to conduct a little research on it first. For example, many dating sites are listed with the Better Business Bureau, meaning that any complaints filed on the company can be found online for the public to see. The fact that a dating service is even registered with the Better Business Bureau should instill some confidence in a potential paying customer. With so many fly-by-night dating sites out there, it never hurts to be cautious with one’s finances (particularly when paying with a credit card). Singles should consider registering with several dating sites, rather than with one. Not only does this open a person up to more than one market, it will let the user judge which of the dating sites is really working. If one service is proving unsuccessful, it can easily be cancelled.

Many paid dating sites offer a free trial for a month or less, which is an even better opportunity for the curious single. Whatever a person’s lifestyle and partner preference, there are dating services available for everyone.